Earlier this week I sat in my office looking out at a landscape shrouded in heavy
The impression a misty view gives is one of perfection – no scars, no sharp edges, no dirt or stains. Unpleasantness is hidden by a gauzy veil. But the truth behind that mist is reality. Once it clears, all of those blemishes will be exposed again.
It’s a good lesson in the struggle we have comparing ourselves to others. People can look flawless – but they never are. Families can appear to be conflict free. They seldom are. Other journeys can look pothole free, but believe me, curves and bumps and roadblocks are part of everyone’s life drive.
God has a specific plan for each and every one of his children, all different and unique. He doesn’t want us to be the image of someone else. That would be like an artist creating works of art that never vary in color, shape or design. Part of our uniqueness comes from the battles we survive and the challenges we overcome.
No offense meant here, but there is a reason antiques are appreciated. They show wear and tear, host a history of everyday life, and remind us of the passing of time. It’s no different with God’s children. We are marked by the years and the journey.
I was touched by a point Beth Moore made in the final video our ladies group watched last night in our Esther bible study. Beth pointed out how society tends to look at an elderly woman and say “She was beautiful in her time” but God’s word says “He makes everything beautiful in His time.” (Ecclesiastes 3:11) In other words, the passing of time and the events that mark that passing are what create the beauty of a life.
Queen Esther’s early life was all about looking good. She had to catch the eye of the king and the story makes it clear that this took a lot of primping and preening. And it worked. The misty veil of preparation covered every flaw on the outside until she was perfection to the eye.
It took the life events Esther conquered over the years of her reign to bring beauty to the core of who she was. Her later life was marked by courage and leadership and obedience to the call of God. We admired her in the beginning but we loved and respected her in the end.
Our struggles are not meant to be hidden by a false covering of perfection. They are meant to be honestly shared in an effort to help others travel the same difficult path. I don’t mean that we have to spill every dirty detail of our failures and poor decisions. What I do mean is when a young mother is at the end of her patience with fussy toddlers, lack of sleep and a role that she doesn’t feel she can possibly live up to, we can risk sharing the day we locked ourselves in the bathroom and screamed into a towel to keep from harming the child who pushed us over the edge. When a woman cries out her pain from a marriage that seems doomed to fail, we can admit that the strong partnership we have today saw it’s own seemingly hopeless moments along the way.
No one sees the whole picture of a life from the outside until it’s over and the bits and pieces are remembered and pooled together to make a completed work. The important thing is to remember – we are unique and God has a specific path for us to travel. Some have more hills than others so God gives them more stamina. Some have deeper valleys, more roadblocks, sharper turns or rougher terrain. In every situation, God has the roadside assistance ready to respond.
It’s nice to have days when there’s enough mist (or heavy fog for some of us) to cover the blemishes and give us that soft glow of perfection. I love it when my mascara goes on well, my outfit coordinates beautifully and there’s not a hair out of place. Those days are treasured because they are rare.
But the more precious and meaningful days are those when someone sees our soul of overcoming struggles which left their mark, of fighting battles that left us scarred but still standing, of meeting challenges that found us exhausted but exultant in our victory.
“He makes everything beautiful in His time” is the promise. Our prayer every morning should be, “Lord, today lead me down the path that widens the crevice to allow Your light living in me to escape and bring beauty to the world.”
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Cor 10:31